The World Needs Your Song

THIS IS MY PEACEFUL PROTEST.

The most radical rebellion a woman can take against the patriarchy is to CLAIM HER VOICE.

Each of us is born with a gift, a message, and a unique frequency of love. When we freely share our voice with the world, we become beacons of hope and inspiration. When we keep our voices muzzled, we deprive the world of the radiant beauty that has potential to heal hearts and enact great change.

For my entire adult life, I’ve struggled immensely to release the wild voice inside me. I’ve fought to keep her hidden in secret for fear of rejection, exile, or harm.

When my voice is muzzled, I’m like a songbird that can’t sing. A flower wilting in the dark. The beautiful energy that is meant to radiate outward festers inward in a painful chokehold. I become ill in mind, body, and spirit.

Freeing my voice has been an exercise in creating SAFETY.

When I sense the threat of criticism or rejection, my voice physically shuts down. It’s not even a conscious reaction: my body does it for me as an animalistic defense mechanism. Trying to push through this wall results in a squeaky, shaky, stuttering voice that’s painful to my ears.

When I feel safe, my voice expresses freely without censorship. When I sense I’m held with unconditional love and support, the creative flow just pours out of me. I get into “the zone” and channel ideas, words, images, and songs without any mental effort at all. I’m just a wide-open vessel allowing the creative force to move through me.

This is a state of surrender.

It’s a state of vulnerability.

And it can only happen when the body feels SAFE.

How did I create this safety for myself? By surrounding myself with people who VALUE my voice. People who WANT to hear, see, and feel what’s inside my heart. People who hold my expression with curiosity and wonder, not analysis and ratings.

These are the magical beings who don’t measure my worth by what I produce, but by what’s in my heart.

Every woman needs a community like this. Even if it’s just one other person. This intimate connection creates safety to sing your song, knowing that if the whole world turns against you, at least one loyal soul will be there to catch you.

Women are afraid to use our voices unabashedly because our cellular memory reminds us of all the times our ancestors were burned at the stake for living their truth. Most of us have had experiences in our own lifetime, too, of seeing our mothers hushed or belittled; of being steamrolled, overpowered, silenced, or humiliated when our voices got too loud.

A woman’s voice is a powerful force that can heal hearts, change minds, transform culture, and build futures.

And note: this isn’t man bashing. The toxic patriarchy is the enemy of a woman’s free expression. However, the HEALTHY masculine can hold a safe structure for women to reclaim our voices. For example, when I play music with my brother Joey, he holds down the rhythm on guitar while gently calling forward my voice to add a melody. He creates the consistent, steady structure and loving encouragement for my song to emerge.

Claiming our voices is our ultimate FUCK YOU against the patriarchy.

It’s our ultimate leadership.

It’s the work we must dedicate ourselves to in this lifetime.

Because the world needs your song, baby, and only YOU can sing it.

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©️Original freestyle by Joey Incorvaia & Kirsten Incorvaia

📸 by Meghan Incorvaia

🎵 Huge shout out to my incredible voice activation mentors Cindy Incorvaia and Malaya Rose ♥️ This song wouldn’t be possible without you.